There is something nobody tells you when you become a parent. That the hardest part would not be the logistics. Not the schedules or the sleep deprivation or figuring out what to feed them. The hardest part — the part that catches most of us completely off guard — is being asked to stay regulated …
If you’ve tried every parenting strategy in the book and nothing sticks — this might be why. Most behaviour strategies are designed for behaviour. Consequence charts, reward systems, logical outcomes. These tools assume the child’s thinking brain is online and available. When big feelings are involved, it often isn’t. Big feelings are not a behaviour …