Most parenting advice tells you to stay calm during a meltdown. Knowing what to say during a meltdown — the actual words, in the actual moment — is what nobody gives you. This is. These phrases aren’t about fixing the meltdown. They’re about giving your child’s nervous system something steady to hold onto while the …
If you’ve tried every parenting strategy in the book and nothing sticks — this might be why. Most behaviour strategies are designed for behaviour. Consequence charts, reward systems, logical outcomes. These tools assume the child’s thinking brain is online and available. When big feelings are involved, it often isn’t. Big feelings are not a behaviour …